7 steps to a more contented, imperfect life
Are you not a bit sick of people talking about finding this elusive perfect balance?
Does your approach to finding balance look a bit like chasing spinning plates, trying to keep them all in the air before they crash spectacularly to the floor. Stress!
Even if we manage to find that balance sweet spot for a day or a week, sure enough life happens, it’s always in flux, but isn’t that the nature of a rich and varied life. So for me it’s not about this static idea of finding the perfect balance but something more forgiving.
Accept that we can’t do it all.
Much an’ all as I denied it for many years IT”S A FACT. We can’t do it all. It follows then that some stuff won’t, can’t, get done. The trick is choosing what’s important (and no it’s not all important) and what you can let go or ease back on.
It’s all about constantly making a series of small adjustments.
Most things in our lives can continue along for a little while with a little less attention while you focus on something that needs your attention. It’s ok for you to move your attention around, more focus here, a little less there in a conscious, focused way. If things get a bit out of whack. It’s OK you can fix it. Take a deep breath and make some adjustments.
Got an important work commitment coming up? Then that needs your attention but maybe it won’t kill the kids to be fed from the freezer for that week.
Beg, borrow or steal
Even with the important stuff. You don’t necessarily have to do it yourself. Consider asking for help (shocker I know), bartering favours or even paying for help.
You get to decide
You’re top dog in your life. You get to decide what things you need to focus on. Not anyone else and not just whatever is shouting the loudest. What we don’t want to do is put our head in the sand and ignore areas of our life (usually ourselves) while we’re chasing the stuff that shouts the loudest because sooner or later those plates will hit the floor, hard.
No need for guilt!
Say I have a weekend of teaching. My kids hardly see me. The fridge can get dangerously near to ’empty’ (i.e. half full) and I might miss the chats with them but I usually make sure I cook dinner or we do something together the weekend after.
The point is I decide… this work thing is something I need to do… the consequence is the girls get less attention…. but hey, they can survive and I will purposely do something to right the balance after the weekend.
So, I don’t need to feel guilty because I’ve worked it out that it all comes out OK in the the wash.
Accept there’s no such thing as a perfect life or prefect balance
Try not to compare your life to other’s lives. We all have the annoying friend who seems to be on top of everything (you know who I mean) but as my mother says “we don’t know what goes on in their kitchen”. Maybe they have it all sussed, maybe they’re killing themselves. It doesn’t matter, leave them to it. Embrace the fact that a contented, well rounded life is never a perfect one and that imperfection is what the best of humanity is all about.
I used to have a lot of flowers and vegetables in my garden. It was beautiful. I don’t now. No veg at all and just a few flowering shrubs and pots of flowers. Yes I do miss the flowers but somethings got to give. It’s just too much for me now so I’m OK with letting that go or at least I’ve made my piece with the decision and I can live with that choice.
I forgive myself for not having as much beauty in my garden right now.
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